One morning while dropping off my little cub off at school, he tells me oh mama, there goes that 5th grade that always bullies me. I'm like WHERE?!?!?!? I noticed that it was a larger frame young girl and I look at my son and said what do you mean? He goes on to say, this young girl, along with other 5th graders like to bully other 3rd graders. The he proceeds to tell me about where on the metaphorical food chain each student in certain grades belongs and "that's just how it goes mama..." (In a what's wrong with you voice). He further stated, the 4th graders can't mess with the 3rd graders if the 5th graders are around because they are our bullies....
Of course, me being a Mama Bear (like most of us mothers); I asked my son, do you need me to say something to her. My son gives me a look as if I said something to him in a foreign language. So I repeated myself but only louder. DO YOU NEED ME TO SAY SOMETHING TO HER? I think my son's eyes almost popped out of his head and he quickly said, NO MAMA!!!!
So I take him out of the car and said, lets go, I'm going to say something to her. My son, goes into frantic/ embarrassed mode and starts pushing me saying NO MAMA, NO (teeth clenched)!!!! I'm like, let me go talk to her and he's trying to push me back towards the car and as he ran towards the building. Then as the two of them are walking into the doorway with each other, I scream out to my son and say "JUST LET MAMA KNOW IF I NEED TO TAKE CARE OF ANYTHING FOR YOU!!!" My son looks back at me and said OK MAMA..... As I chuckled at his desire to want to navigate school as a young man and me wanting to protect my little cub but clearly knowing that I won't be there to protect him every step of the way.
I always gauge my children's response to situations and decide from there on how I should pursue any situation. My son didn't sound as if he was in distress, instead he just wanted to let me know what's going on at school. I in return wanted my son to know, you have THAT KIND OF MAMA, just in case a situation does arise, I will step up and SPEAK UP! No if, ands, or buts about it. No, my intention was not to go fight the little girl, however, if there was or becomes a serious situation at the school, I would be ALL OVER the case and would have everyone involved addressing it ASAP.
Children always want to feel protected and as a parent, I want my children to know that I will give them the autonomy to make a lot of decisions on their own, but when you need me, I won't be too far behind. Because a Mama Bear always protects her cubs.
Of course, me being a Mama Bear (like most of us mothers); I asked my son, do you need me to say something to her. My son gives me a look as if I said something to him in a foreign language. So I repeated myself but only louder. DO YOU NEED ME TO SAY SOMETHING TO HER? I think my son's eyes almost popped out of his head and he quickly said, NO MAMA!!!!
So I take him out of the car and said, lets go, I'm going to say something to her. My son, goes into frantic/ embarrassed mode and starts pushing me saying NO MAMA, NO (teeth clenched)!!!! I'm like, let me go talk to her and he's trying to push me back towards the car and as he ran towards the building. Then as the two of them are walking into the doorway with each other, I scream out to my son and say "JUST LET MAMA KNOW IF I NEED TO TAKE CARE OF ANYTHING FOR YOU!!!" My son looks back at me and said OK MAMA..... As I chuckled at his desire to want to navigate school as a young man and me wanting to protect my little cub but clearly knowing that I won't be there to protect him every step of the way.
I always gauge my children's response to situations and decide from there on how I should pursue any situation. My son didn't sound as if he was in distress, instead he just wanted to let me know what's going on at school. I in return wanted my son to know, you have THAT KIND OF MAMA, just in case a situation does arise, I will step up and SPEAK UP! No if, ands, or buts about it. No, my intention was not to go fight the little girl, however, if there was or becomes a serious situation at the school, I would be ALL OVER the case and would have everyone involved addressing it ASAP.
Children always want to feel protected and as a parent, I want my children to know that I will give them the autonomy to make a lot of decisions on their own, but when you need me, I won't be too far behind. Because a Mama Bear always protects her cubs.